Long distance Parenting

Also called Obviously and Yet.

Today's rhetoric...how to deal with a terminally ill parent from alreally long distance.
Well. That's what you call a catch-22.
 Do you pack your family up and move away from everything you really like, to go back to a place you really don't like? Or do you stay put until the extremely,extremely ,extremely last minute? I feel lke I've had several last minutes this year,thus the extremes.
If I had written this when my mom first got sick, it would have been answered differently.I was ready to sell my last article of clothing if it got me there.This was before she said," Don't be an idiot." I attributed that to copious amounts of narcotics. But since this became an ongoing issue, and she has flat out told us, 'No, you don't need to move here.'.(and she was not medicated then)...then what do we choose? Do we ignore her and do it anyways? Obviously we haven't done that yet.
Do I feel guilty that my siblings and father are the ones to take care of her? Hmm, let's think about that. No.
My parents decided to move back North a long while back. They knew then that this was where I would stay, unless there was an emergency with immediate family. (I also have 2 grown children that live in the north) They do not consider this an emergency, yet. My siblings have never lived anywhere else. They are all grown ups and can do what they want. Just like me. If they say they've had enough, then off I shall go. But meanwhile I have some of my own serious issues to deal with here. I ahve been taking care of a low-income household and mentally ill adult for 13 years. Ohhhh....did that change your opinion of my story?
Yet obviously I still have the guilt factor going here. I think it will always come with the territory. When you reach middle age and are fortunate enough to have both parents alive, then obviously they are going to be in the 'caretaking' stage. Were my parents really the age I am now when I was in 5th Grade? Holy moly. But like they both say, "Don't count us out yet." As long I have prayer on my side I don't count them out. I may count how many grievances I have with their doctors, but that's a whole other story!

Do overs

It's sad when blogging is now old school, but I don't text or Twitter and many of my friend's (my age!) do not either. They can tune in to a blog however. So I have decided to try this again. I used the same blog I had to do for work over a year ago! I would like to use this as a home schooland general randomness type arena. I am almost 100% certain it will be a huge fail, but what do I have to lose?